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Thankful.

Wednesday, November 26th, 2014.  35w 6d.

I know… I have owed everyone an update for nearly two weeks now, especially after my last cliffhanger of a post.  In my defense, I did actually write one, and while I was wrapping up the last of it, my browser crashed and I lost the whole thing.  And then I was mad, and I was tired, and just felt so defeated by technology that I didn’t come back to it till now.

Anyway, here I am, with updates galore!

When I last posted, the doctors were worried that baby girl was becoming anemic, due to the rapid pulse in her brain.  I was scheduled for a follow-up scan and instructed to report any noticeably decreased movement.  The anemia could be very dangerous and would warrant a quick delivery to ensure our girl didn’t suffer any decline in health.

At the follow-up, the doctor said that she didn’t see anything concerning like she had the week before.

*audible sigh of relief*

She also said that she was very pleased with everything she saw, and that she felt comfortable keeping me pregnant, at least for a couple more weeks.

*WHEW*

So… wait.  What does a couple more weeks mean, exactly?

Turns out she wants us to deliver around 37 weeks, and no later than 38 weeks.  Baby will be in better hands on the outside as far as treatment and testing, and once we are past the pre-term stage, her odds of being a healthy kid greatly increase.

The plan is this:  we will check into the hospital late next week, arriving in the evening to start the induction process.  We’ll start with a cervix-softening medication overnight, which can take some time to work, and then once that has made the progress they like to see, they’ll give me medication to help induce contractions and labor.

It can, and likely will be, a long and drawn out process.  We are hoping for a baby by December 7th, but I’m not placing any bets.  Our girl seems to do everything at her own pace, and she likes to keep us guessing… I don’t see that changing any time soon.  😉

Since that appointment, I’ve had another NST at my OB’s office in Toledo, which looked great.  I also had a second follow-up at UofM yesterday, which was part NST and part ultrasound, both of which also looked beautiful.

While we still don’t know if or how the infection will impact Jelly Bean, we do know that she’s active and growing and looking great on all of the testing we have in place so far.  What will be once she’s born remains yet to be seen.

What I can say with certainty is that this year has been one of extreme joy and, at times, extreme fear for the husband and I, and while things have not always been sunshine and roses, we are extremely thankful for what we have:  an amazingly supportive family and group of friends all over the world – including all of YOU, access to medical care and facilities that support and treat us like the most important patients they have, and finally, our little growing family and our miracle baby.

And so even in the face of some uncertainty, we are so, so thankful.

May this Thanksgiving holiday be a time of appreciation for the things you have, in spite of the curveballs life may be throwing your way.

And may there be pie.  Always, always pie.

 

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Viability and Uncertainty

Monday, September 15th, 2014.  25w4d.

I know it’s been quiet over here, and partially it’s just been because life, as it will do, has become so overwhelmingly busy the past few weeks that it’s taken every last ounce of effort on my part to even keep in touch with people who call or email me.  It’s been cuh-RAZY.

The other part has to do with the fact that there are some things happening that I’ve been trying to process, trying to work through, and attempting to handle completely within the confines of marriage, but I’m finding that I – we – may need help.

And so, as I always do, I’m turning to you, my readers and the wide reach of the interwebs, for help.

First, let me tell you the story of how something totally common I’d never even heard of is currently possibly endangering our precious Jelly Bean…

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Nearly six weeks ago at our 20-week anatomy scan, the doctor said that everything looked great with the baby, just that she was measuring a bit small in a couple of areas, including her head measurement.  Since neither the husband or I are particularly large people, we, and the doctor, chalked this up to genetics and were told it likely wasn’t a reason to worry.

Since Jelly Bean fell below a certain percentile in her head circumference, however, we were referred to Maternal Fetal Medicine for a follow-up scan two weeks later.  Every indication was that with the better machines, two full weeks, and a different sonographer, baby’s measurements would probably show up at the second scan well within range.

Well, that wasn’t the case.  Baby’s head measurement was still small, although her brain looks perfect, and there was an echogenic or bright area visible in her bowel.  These two findings can be markers for all sorts of genetic abnormalities, Downs Syndrome, cystic fibrosis, or signs of infection, as I was told when I was ambushed by three perinatologists and a genetic counselor moments after my ultrasound ended.

I was stunned that this was such a big deal, but carefully weighed through the options presented to me and ultimately decided to have a more advanced genetic screening panel (Verifi) and an infections TORCH panel done that day.

The Verifi results came back around a week later, and all indications are that this baby girl has an extremely low risk for trisomies and other genetic issues for which I was tested.  This is pretty much in line with what my first and second trimester screening labs showed, as well, so I was relieved.

The TORCH panel also showed that I am not infected with toxoplasmosis, parvovirus (the human version of this strain is commonly called Fifth’s Disease), or the other infections on the panel.

Except one.  Cytomegalovirus, or CMV, is the one infection for which I tested positive.  The two-part testing showed that I have been exposed in the past, but also that I have had either a recent infection or a resurgence of an old infection.  CMV is one of the herpes family of viruses like chicken pox or shingles, and can lie dormant in your system after exposure for a long time.  Occasionally, pregnancy can cause it to reemerge, and many times without symptoms.

I had never heard of this infection before.  I’ve heard of toxoplasmosis – that’s the one you can get if you are in contact with the cat litter while pregnant, and I’ve heard of parvovirus because our dog had it when I was in high school – although I didn’t realize there were different variations that humans could also get – and not from dogs, from each other.  But CMV?  Never heard of it.  So why were these doctors talking to me like I should be terrified?

Well, upon researching on my own, I discovered that when a woman is exposed to and infected with CMV for the first time during the first half of pregnancy, there is a 60% chance her unborn baby can also get the infection, called Congenital CMV.  There’s currently no real treatment (other than one that’s being done on a rather experimental level), and the infection in the baby can cause a range of things from hearing and vision loss, to profound mental and physical disabilities, to stillbirth and infant death.

It can also cause nothing.  There’s just no way to know.

There are odds and chances and percentages, but again, no way to know if the baby does, in fact,  have the infection until birth, and no real way to know how this infection, should she have it, will impact her life.

At some point, while all this was happening, I reached 24 weeks – viability.  Except, in this case… is it?  It’s hard to say.  Either way, I’m amazed to have made it this far, and I hope and pray every single day that the little lady ninja-kicking my spleen on the regular will be strong and healthy.  She’s a fighter like her mama, that much I know for the sheer fact that she even exists.

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So what now?

Good question.  Upon doing hours and hours of research, I found a resource with a children’s hospital in Texas that specializes in CMV in infants and in pregnant mothers.  I found that there is a blood test that can sometimes help determine if this particular infection is more than six months old, or less.  The test isn’t exact, so it may be inconclusive, but it’s a risk I’m willing to take.  I had the labs run almost two weeks ago, and the results should be in soon…

From there, if I’m able to determine that I likely contracted the illness prior to pregnancy, I can perhaps worry a bit less.  If the test shows that I likely did become infected during pregnancy, then I will have to move forward.

Forward with what?

I don’t know.  All I know is that I’m currently being seen by a very small hospital Maternal Fetal Medicine department, and not even with the hospital chain I wish to deliver with in this area.  There are some insurance politics at play here, but I may have to force the issue and skirt around my OB’s office to see a more regional specialist.  From there, I hope to secure treatment through a doctor and hospital with a high-level NICU, because my baby will have to go through a barrage of tests after birth to find out if she has this infection, and if so, what – if any – symptoms she may be showing.

Another thing to consider is that there is that little experimental treatment that I mentioned before.  It’s not done regularly – my doctor here had never even heard of it and assured me that no one in this area would attempt it (how he knows that is beyond me…) – but it IS done, and with great success and little risk, actually.  I would like to find a MFM doctor who might consider it, and I’m willing to commit to a hospital over an hour away from my home to make that happen, risky though it may be to consider having to travel that distance in the winter to deliver.

On one hand, I feel like I have zero options – wait until the baby is born, have her tested, and plan your life at that moment around those results and whatever unpredictable events may occur thereafter.

On the other, I feel like there are so many different directions I can go to search for help – and I do feel that I need to search for help, because I feel that I’m very clearly only getting the one “wait and see” option from my current providers.

All of this uncertainty and feeling that I’m left to advocate for myself, and my baby, completely on my own is so reminiscent of what I went through while struggling with infertility.  It’s familiar, and disheartening at the same time.

I blame myself, although the doctors say there’s no way for me to have known I was exposed to this virus.  I think they don’t realize that I blame myself more so for finally, after so long, just being happy.  I forgot all about that other shoe dropping, and when it did, I was completely broadsided.

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So here we are.  Like every pregnant mother, I’m hoping and praying for a healthy baby with an easy delivery, but unlike every mother, I’m also hoping and praying with every fiber of my being that this baby will test negative for an infection that could make her little life very difficult, and worse, even very short.

The doctors tell me there’s no use in worrying, and that 60% of babies don’t get the infection.  They tell me that the abnormalities that showed up on the ultrasounds they’ve seen could be things that just correct on their own and may not be directly related to the infection at all.  They tell me that I may end up with a perfectly healthy baby who has a perfectly normal life.

I wish I could just blindly accept that, but for me, as it’s always been, I can’t just sit back and live with those what-ifs.

If there’s something that can be done, even on an experimental level, I’m going to pursue it.  This baby is due in roughly 100 days, which means that I have around three months to do everything in my power as a mother and informed patient to ensure that she is given every chance at a normal life.

So here we are.  A new normal, yet again.

Different, but so familiar.

And yet, there’s so much more at stake now…

But one thing’s for sure – I will never, ever give up.

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If you have experience with CMV during pregnancy, or have a child impacted by Congenital CMV, please let me know.  Also, if you have, or know someone who has undergone the experimental treatment for CMV on babies in utero with Cytogam, please reach out.  I am desperate for information on both of these subjects. 

Thank you!

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